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Personal Growth Through Grief: Five Positive Ways You Can Change After the Loss of Your Dog
The bond between a dog and its human is a mysterious thing. Its depth and strength can be the same as that which occurs in close human relationships. And yet, this bond is forged with an animal that, in almost every case, will pass away before its human owner. To embrace a dog is to also embrace its eventual loss.
Dealing with this loss is a journey that almost every dog owner will undertake. It is a loss that is often as painful and long-lasting as a human loss. And you may need to face it with less support, since many people fail to recognize the depth of the human-dog bond, and the grief that dog loss creates.
However, dealing with this loss can also be the catalyst for growth. Working through the grief can, eventually, bring about positive change.
The loss of a dog can eventually lead to a new openness in your personal relationships. In particular, moving through grief can often result in a willingness to invest in the life of a new pet.
A beloved dog can never truly be replaced. Just as every person is a unique individual, so is every dog. They occupy entirely unique spaces in our lives. Their personalities, habits, and quirks can never be replicated. This is why the thought of adopting a new pet may feel impossible immediately after their death. Continue reading
A pet is truly your best friend. It doesn’t matter if your pet has wings, paws, or lives in a small tank; as long as you love that little buddy of yours, you know how much it means to you.
I personally know someone who couldn’t eat his food properly after the death of his chameleon; he mourned for more than four days and even after that, it took him almost a month to completely get out of the trauma. To some people it may seem silly, but to anyone who has owned and lost a pet, we can sympathize for how he felt.
Sympathizing with others, even if it’s as simple as reading over positive pet loss quotes, can be a very healing way to deal with the pain of losing a pet.
If you yourself have lost a pet or have a friend who has lost his pet, here are a few quotes that you must read, remember, and share with those who would appreciate it:
1. “He was not ‘bought’, he was ‘adopted’”
This is one of my favorite pet loss quotes. For all those who considered their pets more than mere animals – we bring our pets into our family, they aren’t just store products.
Before we talk about the meaning behind the Rainbow Bridge, here is a look at the poem itself:
The Rainbow Bridge
Just this side of heaven is a place called Rainbow Bridge.
When an animal dies that has been especially close to someone here, that pet goes to Rainbow Bridge. There are meadows and hills for all of our special friends so they can run and play together. There is plenty of food, water and sunshine, and our friends are warm and comfortable.
All the animals who had been ill and old are restored to health and vigor. Those who were hurt or maimed are made whole and strong again, just as we remember them in our dreams of days and times gone by. The animals are happy and content, except for one small thing; they each miss someone very special to them, who had to be left behind.
They all run and play together, but the day comes when one suddenly stops and looks into the distance. His bright eyes are intent. His eager body quivers. Suddenly he begins to run from the group, flying over the green grass, his legs carrying him faster and faster.
Touch, a simple word that we all can understand quickly. Whether it’s the touch of your hand petting your dog or cat’s fur, the brush of your ferret’s whiskers, the wet kiss they would un-expectantly swipe across your face, or the gentle nudge of their nose against your hand. These are just a few of the touch sensory movements that we have experienced with our pets. This gift of touch benefits both our pets and us.
After a long day at work, you come home exhausted and in need of some unwinding. Now is your time to sit, relax and try to regain some peace in your life. Your pet, the happiest living creature in your home has waited all day to see you again. Jumping into your lap, the feel of your pet’s soft fur brings instant comfort. The wet kisses dispel the day’s challenges and their wet cold nose digging into the crook of our neck. You are home and you are loved unconditionally.
Though we tend to take for granted how much we are appreciated and loved by our pets. They show us every day how much they miss us, but yet quite often we forget…
For pet owners, pet cremation can be a difficult decision; however it offers a good number of potential benefits. If you are considering pet cremation, you may be wondering how much it costs, if there are any factors that may affect the price, and if it’s actually the best option for you.
That’s what we’re here to cover.
Pet Cremation Cost
To start, the general cost of cremating your pet is actually contingent upon several factors. These factors include (but are not limited to) the following:
- The kind of pet.
- Its weight and size.
- Desired kind of cremation – you can opt for private, communal, or partitioned.
- Other special services, like home pick up.
- Memorial product(s) selected.
The loss of a dog can be a very devastating event for lots of people. Only those who have spent years taking care of their dogs and who love them dearly can understand how big a loss this is. After losing your dog you are supposed to feel remorse, grief, and all those other bad feelings associated with pet loss.
However, what we need to understand is that in all such cases – no matter what the source of the loss is – the best strategy is to accept what has happened, endure the pain, and find a way to move on.
Why? Because we are not left with any other option. Remember, moving on doesn’t mean that you’re forgetting about your pet, but that you’re learning to live happily again (just as they would want you to).
Getting over the loss is important and required. A few simple tips given below will help you in handling your emotions and moving on.
Before you adopt a dog, there are a few things that you should consider. So if you’re reading this article now, I think it’s safe to assume that you are considering adopting a dog yourself. If that is the case, I want to take the time to tell you that I admire that great step you are about to take.
Adopting a dog or even any animal at such is a great way to contribute positively to earth and its creatures. Through adoption you’ll be giving an animal a second chance, who may not have had one otherwise. Not only that but you’ll be supporting an adoption facility, which in turn could help even more dogs to find their forever homes. For those reasons, if you are about to take that one bold step of adopting a dog, then I applaud you.
However, there are some facts to consider before you adopt.
When grieving the loss of a beloved pet, the thought of giving your heart to another animal may seem wrong. Even though the love of a pet can bring immense joy, sometimes it’s just too soon to invite another pet into space so recently occupied by your four-legged friend.
While this feeling is totally normal for most grieving pet owners, it’s important to remember that healing often comes by giving. One of the great ways to overcome your pain and bring peace to your soul is volunteering at an animal shelter. After all, no one understands the value of an animal’s life like those who went through losing one.
Guest article by Mimi Handlin, MSW, Certified Pet Loss Counselor, Fused Glass Artist
For many of us, the relationships we form with our pets are as important as the relationships we have with other family members or best friends. When a beloved pet dies, we lose not only their precious physical presence, but also everything else they gave us. For those of us who were lucky enough to have loved a special animal, here are some gifts we may have received from them every day:
With the decline in the use of art in death, pet memorial art has not been very prominent in recent history. Fortunately, this beautiful way of celebrating life for pets and for people seems to be making a return.
Memorial Art in History
The parting of ways between you and those you love as they pass is always a difficult time for all involved. To some, celebrating the life of the deceased through memorial art is a way to help bring closure and balance. Looking through history one can see the imprint of death in the art of many cultures, be it the artwork of Charon, crossing the river of the dead on Funerary vases from the 5th and 4th century BC, to the elaborate funeral rites of the Toraja’s of central Sulawesi.
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While this article is here to help you learn how to get over the loss of a pet, you’ll quickly learn that it isn’t something you can just immediately “get over”. Whether you’re trying to cope, or want to help someone else, this can get you started on the right path.
As a pet owner myself, I know just how hard it can be to lose a pet – they really become a part of your family. Pet loss can be a heartbreaking experience, but there are some ways to help cope with your grief. One of the best places to start, is by creating an online pet memorial.
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